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Saying "we": what one small word shows about a couple

Researchers wrote down every word couples said while they argued in a lab, and counted the small ones. One short word went with kinder fights, and the review that pooled the most couples found a surprise about who says it.

  1. 1 At the end of the month, the money runs short again. Miva looks at the bank app and says: "We're short this month. How do we fix it?" She could have said "You spent too much." She did not.We're short thismonth. How dowe fix it?youMiva

    At the end of the month, the money runs short again. Miva looks at the bank app and says: "We're short this month. How do we fix it?" She could have said "You spent too much." She did not.

  2. 2 Researchers wondered if small words like that matter. They filmed couples while they talked about a disagreement, wrote down every word, and counted the small ones.weyouIevery word,written down

    Researchers wondered if small words like that matter. They filmed couples while they talked about a disagreement, wrote down every word, and counted the small ones.

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