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Sacrifice in a relationship: when giving things up helps, and when it hurts

Partners give things up for each other all the time: an evening out, a hobby, a job offer. Studies of thousands of couples found that the same sacrifice can bring two people closer or slowly wear one of them down. The difference is not the size of what is given up.

  1. 1 For a month now, Miva has skipped her Thursday evening choir, so that you can work late on a big project. She has not said a word about it, and you have not noticed.youchoirMiva

    For a month now, Miva has skipped her Thursday evening choir, so that you can work late on a big project. She has not said a word about it, and you have not noticed.

  2. 2 Couples give things up for each other all the time: an evening out, a hobby, sometimes a job. Does all that giving hold a couple together, or does it slowly wear one of them down??holds a coupletogetherwears oneof them down

    Couples give things up for each other all the time: an evening out, a hobby, sometimes a job. Does all that giving hold a couple together, or does it slowly wear one of them down?

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